I will begin to trust you

I wrote this poem after I paused to reflect in mindfulness, to cultivate my ability to trust.  One afternoon, I was getting increasingly frustrated about the extended time one of my children was spending on the computer, in the name of homework and revision.  The conversation began with a casual reminder from me, to shut her laptop down once she [...]

A Convincing “No”

Fostering assertiveness in the complaisant “He didn’t listen to me. He just didn’t get what I was trying to say.” She turned her face away from me, self-piteous and dejected. I reached my arms out and pulled her into an embrace. She grudgingly accepted a hug. Moments later, I felt my shoulder feel damp from [...]

Magical Journeys

From Mayhem to Mindfulness.    At 8 o’clock in the evening, I can be heard herding our children up the stairs to their bedroom with an enthusiasm to match a team of bouncy cheerleaders on the sidelines of a premiership game – “C’mon girls! Let’s GO! GO! GO!” We race up the stairs together – [...]

Making the Lifesaver Redundant

Staying strong amidst waves of discontent I cannot count the number of times I have made threats or laid down ultimatums that I am downright convinced I will follow through on. Yet as our children appear to be drowning in the ocean of misconduct, heading straight towards tragedy of consequence, the lifesaver in me is awakened. [...]

Softer around the edges

A reluctant change brings an unexpected result .  I live with a mini me. She is unashamedly goal orientated, organised, fiercely independent, easily annoyed by inefficiency and sticks to what she does well. This child came into our lives preloaded with a whole bunch of software that is ideal for a schooling and learning environment that [...]