I will begin to trust you

I wrote this poem after I paused to reflect in mindfulness, to cultivate my ability to trust.  One afternoon, I was getting increasingly frustrated about the extended time one of my children was spending on the computer, in the name of homework and revision.  The conversation began with a casual reminder from me, to shut her laptop down once she [...]

The Day After

In celebration of International Day of Happiness, let us take a moment to lighten ourselves and welcome happiness and self-compassion into our own hearts. Oh, my dear You feel deeply You search intently Often your toughest critic Unforgiving Relentless Striving Questioning Leave that mind behind Just for a moment Or more Look up Let light [...]

Solace

Tears on my pillow An ache deep in my heart Consoled by words of true kindness from a dear friend An angel Reassurance lies in trust, faith, belief And prayer In this surrender I welcome inner peace Acceptance and courage The ache persists For it serves to inspire To remind me of this gem In [...]

Magical Journeys: from Mayhem to Mindfulness

At 8 o’clock in the evening, I can be seen herding my three children up the stairs to their bedroom with enough enthusiasm to match a team of bouncy cheerleaders on the sidelines of a premiership game: “C’mon girls! Let’s Go! Go! Go!” We race up the stairs together—“Last one to the room has to turn off the lights!” Squealing [...]

Room for settling conflict

Enforcing a ceasefire and self-regulated dispute resolution “Staff members are strongly encouraged to first try and solve a dispute through informal channels…Resolving disputes through negotiation, mediation and other alternative means is usually quicker, and often proves to be less stressful and less cumbersome…” A guide to resolving disputes, Administration of Justice in the United Nations [...]

There is Power in Absence

A little distance in love can provide a refreshing perspective and personal growth. It was 6:35am. We were having as relaxing breakfast on a weekday morning before the children departed for school. Seated around the dining table, there was lively chatter in anticipation of the day ahead. Then one of the children realised that I [...]

A Convincing “No”

Fostering assertiveness in the complaisant “He didn’t listen to me. He just didn’t get what I was trying to say.” She turned her face away from me, self-piteous and dejected. I reached my arms out and pulled her into an embrace. She grudgingly accepted a hug. Moments later, I felt my shoulder feel damp from [...]

Attitude … a Cry for Attention

Unraveling the vulnerability that lies beneath tantrums. I have just been struck with a disrespectful, piercing one liner that stuns me immobile for a few seconds. My jaw drops, my eyes blink, I am aghast. Too slow to react or subconsciously choosing not to respond, I have no comeback. I close my mouth, take a [...]