Can Mindfulness Make you a Better Parent?

Mindfulness for parents is about being completely present to, aware of and accepting what is happening right now, without judgment or over-concern. Parents race through days, planning ahead, anticipating issues, always on the move. Being mindful helps parents to stop, notice and appreciate the happy and joyful moments as they arise. When parents are confronted … Continue reading Can Mindfulness Make you a Better Parent?

I will begin to trust you

I wrote this poem after I paused to reflect in mindfulness, to cultivate my ability to trust.  One afternoon, I was getting increasingly frustrated about the extended time one of my children was spending on the computer, in the name of homework and revision.  The conversation began with a casual reminder from me, to shut her laptop down once she … Continue reading I will begin to trust you

Fighting the Demon that Rises during Homework Watch

I sit in silence Duct tape over my mouth An invisible hand resting over my quickening heart Taking deep and deliberate breaths Trying hard to unclench my jaws Releasing my strained temples Softening the gaze of my enlarged eyes Unfurling my pleated brow An observer of procrastination I stop the words that are clamouring up … Continue reading Fighting the Demon that Rises during Homework Watch

The Now. A celebration of Presence

“Happy New Year!” greetings sound out as we recount 2016 and encounter expectations for the year to come. Conversations are peppered with laughter and sighs alike as we reminisce about the days gone and contemplate what lies ahead. The start of each year is often greeted with mixed emotions. Unfinished goals from the year just … Continue reading The Now. A celebration of Presence

Starting the book of your life with A, B, C

Yesterday I woke up, very cognisant of the date and upcoming events for many of my friends and their children, who are peers of my eldest child. It was the day, most twelve year olds in Singapore would receive the results of their Primary School Leaving Examinations. To each and every student, this is my letter to you. … Continue reading Starting the book of your life with A, B, C

Magical Journeys: from Mayhem to Mindfulness

At 8 o’clock in the evening, I can be seen herding my three children up the stairs to their bedroom with enough enthusiasm to match a team of bouncy cheerleaders on the sidelines of a premiership game: “C’mon girls! Let’s Go! Go! Go!” We race up the stairs together—“Last one to the room has to turn off the lights!” Squealing … Continue reading Magical Journeys: from Mayhem to Mindfulness

The Tale of Two Arrows

Neither an archer nor a target be… The Tale of Two Arrows from the Sallatha Sutta is an interesting representation of how humans experience physical and emotional pain.  When experiencing physical pain, the human body suffers a bodily sensation, discomfort or injury. In this depiction, this pain is referred to as the first arrow. The … Continue reading The Tale of Two Arrows

When Words of Assurance are Not Enough

The magic of meditation and the power of affirmation “But Mom, what if I fail?” My heart sank. I dread hearing this question because the same thought occasionally crosses my mind each time any of our children have an important test, race or any sort of performance evaluation. Admittedly, I do not always know how to … Continue reading When Words of Assurance are Not Enough