Best friends, worst enemies – how to handle sibling rivalry

Sibling interaction is one of the first social contexts children encounter. Rivalry is often fueled by competition for attention from people that they regard as influential or significant, such as parents or caregivers. Over time, as their circle of influence widens, such behaviour extends to impressing their peers, and both physical and relational aggression are [...]

Chrysalis

Listening to confirm what my heart speaks Communicating with spaces in between words open to interpretation Observing to complement what my eyes see Walking taking a moment before each step Breathing like there is nothing else that I need to do I exist in this cloud of serenity withdrawn from a thoughtless race I am [...]

I will begin to trust you

I wrote this poem after I paused to reflect in mindfulness, to cultivate my ability to trust.  One afternoon, I was getting increasingly frustrated about the extended time one of my children was spending on the computer, in the name of homework and revision.  The conversation began with a casual reminder from me, to shut her laptop down once she [...]

Acceptance

What does it mean? A chasm exists from where I am To where I want to be Vast with fear Wide with what-ifs Seemingly insurmountable Acceptance brandishes courage Imposes upon time Pleads forgiveness Implores non-judgement Articulates self-love Acceptance challenges beliefs Rocks foundations Shifts paradigms Reframes boundaries Manifests transformation Acceptance Is not resignation Is not surrender nor [...]

Magical Journeys: from Mayhem to Mindfulness

At 8 o’clock in the evening, I can be seen herding my three children up the stairs to their bedroom with enough enthusiasm to match a team of bouncy cheerleaders on the sidelines of a premiership game: “C’mon girls! Let’s Go! Go! Go!” We race up the stairs together—“Last one to the room has to turn off the lights!” Squealing [...]

Just like me

“Remember she may share very similar traits with you, but she is not you.” Told by a friend, these words moved me unexpectedly physically as it did emotionally. I felt the muscles in my shoulders stiffen immediately and defensively, my throat narrow as I tried to swallow the emotions that were arising within me. It [...]